I stopped by a preschool the other day, and met Sam. He caught my eye right away because he had presence. We call him “Mr. President,” the teacher told me. “He’s bossy.”
Sam was focused on a car he was playing with. When I walked up to him, he looked up slowly, with confidence. Something told me not to talk to him like a preschooler.
“What’s your name?” I asked him. “I am Sam,” he said.
“Sam, I am?” I countered, laughing. (You know, Dr. Seuss) He looked back, curious but not amused.
“I am Sam,” he repeated, more firmly.
“Want to talk?” I asked.
“Okay,” he said, centered. He put the car carefully aside. “Let’s count backward from 10 in Spanish.” Then he added, “You sit” pointing to the chair beside him.
So I sat down and did what he said!
I think I encountered a future CEO. He showed lots of innate strengths that would point to that.
LEADING STRENGTHS
Strengths show up early in childhood and continue with us throughout our life. They may be repressed, neglected, or even devalued, because someone’s tried to make us “well-rounded,” but they’ll always be there.
Knowing what yours are and staying close to them is the path to happiness.
HOW DO YOU KNOW WHAT THEY ARE?
You can take an assessment. StrengthsFinder(tm) is one. The VIA Signature Strengths(tm) is another.
Also pay attention to these things:
If you’re asked to do something you’ve never done before and take to it like a duck to water. If you do something and the observer says “Where did that come from?” instead of “Can you teach me that?” When you do something so well you think everyone else can, they just aren’t (why coaches are a good idea – to point this out ) When something gives you deep satisfaction, a sort of “flow” When you do it for fun
SO WHAT DOES THIS LOOK LIKE IN REAL LIFE?
Back to Sam.
Later I heard him sing perfectly on-key, unlike most of the others in the class. This clinched it – he’s left-brained. His idea of a “conversation” was to use numbers and a foreign language – symbolic – and music is a symbolic language. He used little facial expression or gestures. He spoke directly in one-syllable words. He stayed on-task.
Sam showed the innate strength Command – people who feel comfortable giving orders and pressing their own opinions. They’re what you’d call “opinionated.” People are drawn to them, says the assessment. They have presence. Also Focus and Self-assurance.
Sam didn’t enjoy “idle conversation” like a Relator would, and didn’t try to win me over, like a WOO (Winning Others Over) would.
Find out what your strengths are and build your life around them. It works.
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