Tuesday, November 5, 2024

So What Does Emotional Intelligence Look Like in ReaL Life?

1.. High IQ, Low EQ: A student.

There’s a story going around the Chicago area, where EQ is big, about a student at the U. of Chicago last year. At that venerable high-IQ institution, it’s still a graduation requirement that each student pass a swimming test. A student showed up to take the test and, 3 hours later, after they’d dragged him out of Lake Michigan and the EMS had left, they asked him why he’d shown up to take the test when he didn’t know how to swim.

“I read about it,” he said.

2.. High IQ, Low EQ: Frank.

Ph.D. in Engineering, designs military defense systems for the government, has a net worth in the millions, and top security clearance, and is on his 5th wife.

3.. Average IQ, High EQ: Dr. Bob

Bob has an IQ of 125, low for a physician. He was told repeatedly he wasn’t med-school material, but his social skills, focus, and determination made his becoming a doctor a reality. And what a gift to the profession! He has a marvelous “bedside manner.” He’s grateful he can practice medicine – when was the last time you encountered a physician with that attitude??

4.. High IQ, High EQ: William Pickering, the Rocket Man.

Ph.D., Physics, CalTech. In 1957, when Russia launched Sputnik, Pickering was working for the Jet Propulsion Lab. In 2 months, the Naval Research Laboratory launched the Vanguard, which under the glare of international media, blew up on the launch pad.

Fortunately, Pickering and the JPL had been working since Sputnik on their own satellite. Explorer 1 was launched less than 4 months after Sputnik.

To bring this off, Pickering worked James van Allen, and Wernher von Braun.

(What’s that sound I hear? Egos colliding???)

Imagine the pressure and EQ it took to pull this off – uniting two geniuses with the government, the military and the American public breathing down their necks. And correct me if I’m wrong, Einstein was also alive and well at the time.

Which of these towering, credentialed geniuses got the leadership job? The one with the EQ!

5.. High IQ, Low EQ: John, a lawyer.

His girl friend, my client, became increasingly displeased with his “cluelessness” and lack of signs of affection. Finally she lost her temper and yelled, “Can’t you just send me some flowers?”

“You don’t understand,” he replied. “I don’t know how to.”

6.. Low IQ, Low EQ: Mike Tyson.

7.. High IQ, Low EQ: Harry, a lawyer.

A lawyer I worked with, smartest person I’ve ever known. Told his secretary, a single parent with 4 children under the age of 6 and no child support, who earned $28,000 a year, when her second-hand car broke down, “Well, if you’d just buy a new Lexus like I have .”

Were his office projects sabotaged? What do you think?

8.. High IQ, High EQ: Ray Garrett, Jr., former chairman of the SEC.

The man under whom it all shook down after Watergate in the 70s. The stock market was at its all-time low.

He was interviewed live on “Wall Street Week,” the night before he deregulated stock commissions. Rukheyser, hoping to ^nail him^, said, “And what will you do if this doesn’t work?”

Unflappable, Garrett shrugged and replied, “Try something else.”

9.. High IQ, High EQ: Captain of the RCI’s Rhapsody of the Seas

Many seniors travel on cruises, with their wheel chairs, crutches, weak knees and bad hips . with predictable results. Wet decks, stairs, tendering, hot tubs, spilled drinks in the cafeterias, a rocking boat, a new environment. Things happen. There are falls. Last cruise I spoke on, I watched the captain, in full command and presence, come down from the bridge to visit with a couple sitting poolside. He asked the man how he was doing after his fall in the dining room, looked at his bruises, ordered drinks delivered, sat and visited.

I know your insurance company would tell you not to do this.

I worked in a law firm at one time and I heard it over and over. I heard repeatedly, “If he had just apologized . if she’d even said she was sorry.”

I rear-ended someone 1 years ago. Just flat out didn’t hit the brakes in time. The woman told me she had just recovered from a back injury and was scared. SHE was scared? I was PETRIFIED. I asked her to follow me to a parking lot. I spent 30 minutes with her expressing my concern, calming her, offering to drive her home, make phone calls, and saying how sorry I was to have added to her stress.

Believe it or not, I never heard from her again.

10.. Low IQ, High EQ: Daniel, sales.

Daniel never finished college. His strengths on the StrengthsFinderT are Positivity, WOO (Winning Others Over), Empathy, Communicator, Activator. This is not the profile of an intellectual; it’s a ^people- person^ who takes action.

11.. Unk. IQ, High EQ: Michael Jackson

Well, this is tricky one, but considering that EQ involves creativity, flexibility, and intuition (rather than purely cognitive rules and formulas) and that few have produced more hit singles than he, consider his responses to an interview:

S: “How do you write your songs?” Michael: “If I sit there and say I’m going to write a best-seller, nothing is going to happen.. The way I wrote Billy Jean.I was in the car and I thought I’d like to make a song with a really cool base line, and I let it go.

I just let go. A few days later, the beats just started playing in my head.. The mistake many musicians make is that they get in the way of the music. Get out of the way. Let the song write itself.”

S: “But if you don’t write it, where does it come from?” Michael just shrugged, paused, and said, “Above.” Emotional intelligence is where emotions and thinking interface. Winners have high EQs and it can be learned. Why not start today!

Susan Dunn, MA, Marketing Coach,
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